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14th August 2022 

How Can Counselling or Psychotherapy Help?

Life can be difficult, stressful and overwhelming. You may be unhappy with the way you are handling situations. Relationships can be hard to manage.

In therapy you can experience a calm, quiet and supportive relationship which gives you the opportunity to reflect and work through the difficulties or frustrations you are experiencing.

Anxiety can lead to you feeling powerless and out of control in your relationships. It can get in the way of rational thinking and make you respond to others too quickly in an effort to try to resolve situations, or make others feel better. But these quick reactions can mean losing a sense of what is good for you which can easily lead to anger, hurt, frustration and depression.

We would calmly focus on your needs and how to keep these central. This does not mean losing your way of responding well to those you love. It is a rebalancing process which leaves you less hurt and frustrated, but still being giving and responsive to others. Relationships and your sense of who you are can become much more balanced and rewarding.

Psychotherapy, Counselling and Supervision for Highgate, Muswell Hill, Crouch End, East Finchley and Hornsey

I am happy to work with anyone who has experienced:

    Abuse - Physical, Emotional, Sexual, Psychological
    Child Sexual Abuse
    Domestic violence
    Infertility, miscarriage or a termination
    Sexual Assault
    Sexual difficulties

'Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.' James Baldwin
Psychotherapy, Counselling and Supervision for Highgate, Muswell Hill, Crouch End, East Finchley and Hornsey

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Why counselling or psychotherapy?

Counselling can help when you are experiencing personal difficulties or distress. Even if you have the most supportive family and friends, you can find it difficult to talk about how you are feeling. You may find it easier to talk about personal, family, relationship or sexual difficulties with a counsellor who can help you. Life events such as bereavement, divorce, redundancy, health issues, bullying and so on, can be very difficult to deal with on your own.
However, you do not have to be in crisis before choosing to have therapy. You may be experiencing underlying feelings of dissatisfaction with life in general, or be seeking balance in your life. All of these reasons and more bring people into therapy.

What is therapy?

Therapy is a weekly time set aside by you and the therapist to look at what your concerns are. This might include talking about life events from the past and in the present, as well as feelings, emotions, relationships, experiences, thoughts and patterns of behaviour. We will look at your situation to find ways to resolve or to learnt to live with your difficulties. Talking about these things may take time, and will not necessarily all happen in one session. At the first session we can decide on the number of sessions you would like or might be necessary.

How do I choose a counsellor?

The judge of whether I am the right counsellor for you can only be done by yourself and you must trust your own instincts. The first session gives you the chance to experience how it might be in sessions with me without any commitment to continue. Don’t be afraid to ask me questions or request more information. Think about whether you would feel comfortable telling me about yourself - do you feel safe with me, do you like my manner towards you?
If you are not sure, it is better to arrange to visit others counsellors until you find one that you do feel at ease with. Having confidence in your counsellor is very important and will enable you to get the best out of the work you do together.

How do I make first contact?

You can either email me - Click here to email now or call me on 07939206455. The phone may be on voicemail as I cannot answer the phone while I am working but don’t be put off by this. I will call you back as soon as I can. Please leave your name, number and the best time for me to call you back. I will then invite you to a first session at a mutually convenient time.

What happens at the first meeting?

The first meeting is an opportunity for us to discuss whether counselling would be appropriate for your needs and if you feel comfortable with me. There is no obligation on either side at this stage.

Confidentiality is a very important aspect of counselling and we will discuss it in the first session. We will also look at other practical considerations such as finding a suitable time to meet, fees and any other questions you may have.

You don't need to decide then and there. You make your decision in your own time and contact me when you are ready.

What am I committing myself to?

If you do decide to go ahead with counselling, we will agree a fixed time to meet weekly. I suggest we agree a number of sessions, after which we can review progress to decide what to do next. The decision will be yours and depends a great deal on what you are dealing with and whether you feel the counselling is helping you. Some deep-rooted problems can take longer to manage whereas short term counselling may be enough for a specific problem.